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Preamble
This is my first note after a very long time of heart break and shattered emotions even though am still note balanced but God is helping. I’ll still teach on what lesson i learnt and those lessons are now my daily nightmare. Am dedicating this to all my friends who have always been with me in talks and in kind, with your words of wisdom, i appreciate you all but heaven appreciate you most. To God Be The Glory....

Why our relationships fails! -
Yes they fail because we start them on the wrong foot. That is just the answer but what or which wrong foot do we start most of these relationships on? INFANTUATION

The first thing that must come before the beginning of a relationship is now the last thing while the last thing is now the first. In the days of our grandfathers, their own parent give them who to marry this shows that the first thing that was considered for that man or woman in respect of the proposed marriage is not INFANTUATION rather it was REALITY of POSSIBILITIES that will generate PROSPERITY and that can last for ETERNITY.

What does that mean? It means that, for example, if the parent of the guy brings a girl for their son to date or marry, they would have seen that girl in action to be respectful, well disciplined, good wife material, caring and loving before presenting her to their son and these types of relationships are that of our grandparents of which we are a good result of it. This type of relationship did not start on a wrong foot of INFANTUATED FEELING rather it started on the right foot of REALITY and RESPONSIBILITY to build a home.

Since we have grown wings in the hands of our parents and our generation believes we can always do out thing by ourselves which i also believe but we tend to completely forget that “...a child that can clean his hands very well will be able to dine with the elders” meaning we neglect the advices of the elders in our relationships.

If we can do our thing on our own then we should learn that the way we have been starting our different types of relationship has NEVER helped. 95% of today’s relationship starts on the wrong foot of INFATUATED FEELINGS and they are mostly started by woman because they are weaker vessels and men only take advantage of them like street dogs.

Why can’t we open our eyes and get into the relationship rather than closing it to get inside and while you are in, you start trying to open your eyes like a newly born child. Let us learn from our past, we started those past relationships on the wrong foot of INFANTUATED FEELINGS that only make us miss-use our body by just sleeping around like street dogs. Look at yourself as an individual that has a role to play in your generation and that role is your call in life, will disintegrating your body help you survive the future?

Have you ever thought about it the reasons why you were in those past relationships? I talked to some people and ask them confidently and in sincerity the reason why they date? Like am asking you right now, why do you date? I can tell you categorically but i know you will deny from your mind but later on when you flash back into your past you will tell yourself the real honest answer. The reason why we all date is SEX.

Quote me wrong because you are very sure about your relationship, because am the one opportune to write this note does not mean am left out or as if am a saint, i just realised it too, so please do the same. Our primary and undisclosed reason for dating through INFANTUATION is sex because the only call we answer to during those periods is the call of our BODY, we bow down to it when it calls.

Literarily you feel you are happy in those periods when you are being ruled by INFANTUATION but sincerely nothing is making you happy. If you flash back to the past INFANTUATED relationships that you’ve had, think about it what exactly was making you happy? And try to prove it to yourself. You will find out that it was just the INFANTUATION and you have nothing to show for it anymore because it has been blown away with time but REAL AND GENUINE LOVE, REALITY PROPOSED RELATIONSHIPS will never leave you empty but rather with a foot print that can never be blow away with time and hardly do such relationships end.

Why should you be in a relationship that has no plan for you or you both have no plans for each other? Think about it, what is the foundation of that relationship? Why are you in it? What has been your profit? Is your loss more than you profit? What is your loss? What is your profit? Will talk about that in another note. THE PROFIT AND LOSS IN A RELATIONSHIP.

That relationship can still be transformed into a reality relationship if you both can make a change, all you both have to do is analyse by doing the following;
1. Let the man start being like your small father, you both should analyse what you have for each other and how you want to share it

2. What has been the challenge of the relationship? Money, affection, priority differences – try to balance things with each other

3. Know and help with your individual weakness and DO NOT use it against each other

4. Think and plan for the future – what good is the relationship when all it sees is now and nothing about the future, that shows the man is not interested in building a home with you or the woman is just clubbing

5. Do more important things that fun – Find a learning seminar to attend together, bring in ideas for each other, act like business partners atimes and not just fuck partners.

6. Spend a family-like time together, check for the woman’s domestic and the man’s agility as the father, then you can help each other out where there is need for assistance. Don’t blame him or her for not being able to do some things rather teach her and if you have to blame do it with love and a joke.

7. Try to be aggressive to chance in a loving manner, take to corrections from your man and men listen to your woman and how and when she wants her things to get done.

8. BE PATIENT – This is expensive for some people like me

9. Carry each other along with information about your individual progress and do not use it to oppress each other.

10. BE KIND TO EACH OTHER – Put passion into all that you do for your man or woman....

11. APPRECIATE EACH OTHER – there is a reason for your togetherness, always seek that reasons and always water and nurture it

12. Quarrel, fight, argue but don’t break up – u argue to learn, you quarrel to appreciate and you fight to makeup....


Thank You all for reading....
Yours Truely