If you read some of my notes you will find out that most of the corrections have made are mearnt for caution because some of them are so minute but could create a problems as big as divorce.
For anything in a marriage to result to divorce has been from the beginning of the marital life or even before marriage but both parties just close their eyes to it, hoping and having faiths without work to face their problems and differences.
It makes me laugh when i hear lovers saying I LOVE YOU, and it sound so sweet and ease in their mouth like they are reciting a peom. LOVE indeed, has no end except its being created and most end is divorce, wonder why they took the oath of love when they have no enduring love in the first place?
Early marriages like that of our grandparents has always proved that regardless of what they get in the marital life, it’s like a fight to finish, they must make it work, but now civilization has brought differences into our lives and we now see LOVE has a game, some even see it to be like a shirt they wear and pull off when its dirty.
Divorce is cause by;
1. TRUE LOVE – The bible say, can these two be, except they agree? Agreement to marry should not be based on mere feelings, should be based on conjugal connection that is unbreakable, True Love. Breakable love can be seen even while you are in a relationship while unbreakable love can also be seen at the same time. True love sees problems and yet the only thing a true love can think of is ways of finding solutions and not ending it.
2. ENDURANCE –Regardless of the obstacles which are bound to happen, and enduring love will stay forever together. This does not mean both parties will have endurance of the same level, but if something is strongly attached from both parties involved, then the strength to endure to achieve what you’ve seen in each other will keep pulling your to overcome every obstacles. Most people always feel love is easy, sincerely its of the hardest thing we humans want to do in life.
3. SATISFACTION – Humans are hard to satisfy, only God himself can handle our satisfaction level cause we fault god in this way too. You can imagine, a man asking God for a car and when he eventually gets it, he starts telling God he does not have a job to make enough money to fuel the car, even if God gives him a job, the next thing he starts asking for is a house, after which he will tell God to either promote him or give him another job. So the human need is insatiable, it only takes God. Most of us only keep our relationship but we hardly cross check our level of success in it. Nothing stops you from just having a talk with your partner if she has any problem with you that he or she’s has bottled inside, in the name of keeping peace, too much bottling of issues will explode one day and my lead to breakup.
4. COMMON GROUND – The ability to agree without prolonging it shows both parties have a common ground. When the man wants something and the woman wants another. When i was young, have always wanted to go to a particular church with my family friends and my grandfather has always refused, he always want me to go with him to his church, while my grandmum sees nothing in me going to which ever church i want. One day, my granddad left for his church early saying i should meet him in the church but my grandmum knows i was nt interested, so she said i should go to wherever church i wanted to go. Later that day, i got back from my church realising my granddad hass been waiting for me at home, on getting home he ask, where are you coming from,? I answered him saying i attended my church, immediately my grandmum came out to say she gave me the permission to go. The old man wass mad at me and said he would cane me but my grandmum refused him, then they started up a fight. I had to leave the house because my granddad sent me packing but my grandmum said no i must not go, they quarrel because there was no common ground on that issue. But due to their endurance and true-love, they reconciled without leaving each other for 24hours.
5. SUBMISSION – No woman can get the head of his man down without be submissive. I know my grandmother very well, she uses NO black powers
